Baby CHEESES

My GOD. I've come to the conclusion that I can't win. From now on I'm not even going to attempt small-talk with J-dad.

Today was a silly morning. I had to get up at 6 to take S to her ortho appt so she could get to school on time. F left it up to J-dad and I which role to take (either getting J ready for school or accompanying S to her ortho appt) and J-dad said he was fine to get J ready for school. J's normal routine is to get up at 7:30, brekkie done by 8am at latest (that's on a bad day), brush teeth, wash face by 8:05, dressed and hair brushed by 8:15, shoes on and out the door by 8:20 to meet his walking group.

So I got home at a few minutes after 8 from dropping Sarah off at school and J-dad's on his laptop, J's reading his book, an egg is sitting on the bench and not much is happening. So I make J close his book and start eating. It took him til 8:15 to eat it all. I thought that if we hurried we could still make the walking group. J-dad made some flippant comment about me not making J hot breakfasts. Meanwhile, did he see how long it took him to have J's brekkie ready? 20 mins. I make J a hot brekkie if he tells me the night before that he wants one so I can make it before he wakes up so it doesn't waste time. So far J has only asked for a hot brekkie once, and other times he asks for grits (which are foul and I don't really know what they are... kind of like flakes of wheat, only add water and heat, then mix in a tonne of grated cheese) and I make those at least once a week. So that comment really pissed me off.

So anyway, I ended up getting J ready by 8:26 and decided to walk with him to the walking group just in case they had already left. The thing about J is that he walks soooo slowly. In fact, he does everything slooooowly. It gets VERY annoying when you have places to be. In that regard, he is exactly like his dad who, whenever he decides to come with me to take the kids to an activity, or decides to take them himself, always makes us late because he's on the phone or on his computer or whatever.

Maybe THAT's why when I got home and made a joking comment about J not being able to hurry if his life depended on it, rather than just being FRIENDLY and saying, something silly like, "Ah, kids these days" or WHATEVER - anything, just for conversation's sake! - he retorts, "Well, that's who he is. Life is good for him. Wouldn't you like to be able to do that?" blah blah.

Um... whatever.

Seriously, it's like this ALL the TIME. Sometimes I just need an adult to talk to and whinge about some things - not even whinge, just make silly comments to - and normally when I do the person is F, or Lara, or ANYONE SANE and they say, "Oh, I know" and I feel better.

But with J-dad, you can't say anything about his kids without him coming to their defense. Because his kids couldn't possibly be less than perfect. Yes, I understand that they're children and as such act like children. But children can sometimes be frustrating!! Everyone acknowledges that! But not J-dad.

I just had a thought. Maybe cos he's never around his children, that's why he thinks they're the bees' knees. I know people that everyone hates, but I don't mind them because I don't see them everyday and have to deal with them all the time.

For those that I didn't tell why I was having the problems before, this is basically it. I'm over J-dad constantly undermining me in front of the kids and he always makes me feel awkward when I say things to him, such as what happened this morning. After he said, "Wouldn't you like to be able to do that?" I mumbled some non-answer and went straight into my room to write this post.

So from now on, I'm not going to speak to him about his children. So it looks like I won't be speaking to him. Lol.

But next time he makes comments about F doing something he doesn't like, or bitching about her to me, rather than what I was doing before, which was cringing on the inside wondering "what do I say when I agree with her?!" and usually saying, "Oh, really?" or some other non-sensical answer, I'm just going to say, "Well, that's F. Life is good for her. She's an adult and can make those decisions." Or whatever.

ARGH.
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Sorry. Just needed to pound out my frustration.